law of attraction

3 Simple Things to Stop Self-Sabotage in Business + Life

When I look back over the 7 looong years that I was a struggling entrepreneur, one thing is blatantly obvious. (Thank you 20-20 hindsight.) I was constantly getting in my own way!

I would pursue an idea, not fully believing in it.
I would berate myself with negative self-talk.
I would allow money blocks to stop me from investing and hiring the help I needed.
I would constantly question myself and if I really had what it takes to be a “success”.

Now, on this side of it, I realize that what was stopping me was ME!

That’s a tough realization to come to, but here’s the upside. If you’re the one stopping yourself, it means YOU are in control. The problem is you’re fighting for your limitations instead of working to release them.

If you’re warming up to the idea that YOU might be your own worst frenemy, then here are 3 simple things you can do, starting today to stop getting in your own way.

  1. Bring awareness to it! Yes, seriously, that is the first step. It’s that simple. We first need to recognize that how/when we are getting in our own way before we can start to change that behavior. Awareness creates space. It drives a tiny wedge between the true, steady, authentic you and the negative thoughts in your head. And, once we create that tiny crack, the light can start to get in :-)

  2. Don’t worry about why. Don’t get caught up in trying to figure out why you’re getting in your own way because that just perpetuates it. Instead, focus on moving forward. It starts by choosing thoughts that feel better. Again, super simple. Does it feel really crappy thinking about how little money you have in a bank? Stop dwelling on it! Worrying is like meditating on (or praying for) what you DO NOT want. When you focus on lack, you get more of the same. When you begin to release worry/doubt/negative self-talk/fear, you allow inspiration to enter.

  3. Create a mindset practice. Yes, it would be fabulous if we could address our self-sabotage once, and be done with it forever, but (at least in my case) it doesn’t work like that. That is where a Mindset Practice comes in -- doing small things every day to help support, maintain and expand your limitless mindset. My mindset practice includes morning meditation, daily yoga, reading, listening to inspiring teachings, journaling and positive self-talk throughout the day. Not sure how to get started with your Mindset Practice? I’ve got you covered. Join the free Mindset Reset Challenge here, and you’ll receive 5 daily mini-rituals and easy, feel-good action steps to help you create your own mindset practice.

 
 

Here’s to a limitless 2017, free of self-sabotage and overflowing with self-love and feel-good successes.

How Would You Act If You Were ALREADY Successful?...

Be honest with me.
Do you sometimes think to yourself…
I’ll do that when I’m making more money / have more clients / hire a VA / launch my first group program / etc. etc. etc.
If you’ve ever said some version of this to yourself, please know that you’re not alone.
As women entrepreneurs, we sometimes can get stuck in this place of thinking that we need to have certain level of success in order to have “permission” to do things like email an influencer, raise our prices, take a vacation or invest in ourselves or our business.
And, consequently, every time we think someday, we plant the seeds for success, prosperity and enjoyment to always be lingering just out of reach, “someday” in the future.
If you know that this is your inner dialogue at times, I have something that’ll help.
There’s this fun exercise that I like to challenge myself and my clients with, and today I’m challenging YOU in order to get you out of thinking someday and start thinking TODAY!
This is meant to be fun, but it will also give you insight into your behavior as a business owner to see if it’s holding you back from the success you desire (and deserve!).
There’s a lot of merit to “acting as if” when it comes to drawing what you want into your life, and the simple (and fun!) technique I describe in the video below will help you do just that in order to up-level your life and business and put you in touch with your truest, most authentic self.
Disclaimer: The technique I share in the video is NOT another “to-do”. It’s a lifestyle shift. A new way of LIVING so that you can move through the world in a bigger, bolder more successful way and draw that which you TRULY desire into your life instead of staying stuck where you are. If you’re ready to embrace a mindset shift that will free you of “small thinking” and make you feel like the amazing, empowered woman and entrepreneur that you are meant to be, this technique is exactly what you need.
Let me know how this technique is working for you!
Share your experience in the comments below or send me an email at hello [at] cailenascher [dot] com. I LOVE hearing from you and read everything you write.
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